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 in response to hillbilly58h...   keep believing in God and any thing is posible. Do u believe.

 in response to running on empty...   God is a good God, just watch and see. I know he will bless me. I am just going to be paitient and let him bless when he fell I am ready for it

 in response to running on empty...   as long as u believe in God he will deliver u from everything u are going through.

 in response to ck411...   thanks for your kind words it really helped brighten my day

 in response to MandaGwen...   Thank you for the info and your kink heart if only you knew how much your kind words means to me im sure I will have to ask for more info  thank you so very much and god bless.

Hi I mandy and I wanted to give a little ideas that may help you I hope they will?? i live in Tennessee but im pretty sure that getting goverment help is the same in each state or about the same!

I no that if you have never gotten foodstamps before or goverment assistance then you automatically qualify for a $2000 OR $3000 GRANT fron the dhs office thereself and they will also at the time sign you up for foodstamps,medicare insurance for the whole family,they can help set you up with someone to help you keep your house and if for some reasoet into a hon  there is no possible way to keep it but you should be able to they will help you get into another home...but i pray you can keep your current home. there is also a program they do called families first where you get 150$ each child a month if you do not get a certain amount in child support also..So i encourage you to contact your DHS department of human services as soon as possible..you can fill out an application online also for them! I did it and i have 2 babies and 500$ grocery helps out tremedously!!! If you have any questions for me just ask please!!

There is also a group called the help center here and you might have one where you live you can google help center in the state you live in!!

Good Luck from the bottom of my heart!

I am very sorry to read your story and in so many ways it does anger me to hear that, i have to agree with running on empty, and she had a great advise,i did go similar problem like yours, but you need to stand strong and don't give up, like they say when threre is a well threr is a way.

  Show your self and your kids your strenth and determination to stand on your feet and be very strong, and as far as i am concernd you already won, you have the greatest people on earth by your side, your wonderful kids, show them and teach them to be strong.

     I wish you and your kids the best, and have a wonderful holiday season.

Hi,

I went through a similiar situation, and i feel your pain. I won't go into my story much but my husband of 9 years left the day he brought me to the hospital for a 1-day surgery on my foot.The operation was aborted because something went very wrong  and I almost died. As soon as my husband was told of my situation that I was on life support and in a coma in the ICU he drove 90 miles to a court house never mentioned I was in the ICU but instead stated I kicked my son , and threw sticks at him for punishment. This was to be my 8th foot surgery and kicking or even anyone near my feet was not ok, I had a pet grooming and boarding business and we my son and I trrew the sticks to the dogs to see which ones would bring them back and which didn't my son loved this game. i never abused my son in anyway ever. It's beyond devastating to go through something like what you have and your boys have . I know it's hard and as sick as I was after being released I pushed myself so my ex husband could not and would not make me disappear from my son. You for now have to be strong for your sons and do whatever it takes to keep up your strength . Surround yourself with good positive people weather they are family or friends.The past has already been done and all you can do is go forward.Do positive things with your sons as much as possible, be honest with them if they ask questions. If you don't know something just say you don't know.Learn from each other kids can be really good teachers.Tell and show them you love them and will never leave them. In time it won't hurt so much. Something like this is very tramatic and both you and your boys will be scared.If you are not making much money apply for food stamps and any services you can get fuel assistance, you can even apply for section 8 housing assistance they will help you with your mortgage payment if you qualify.There are also programs like the salvation army that can help with Christmas. Mostlly if you need help ask for it. Don't stay angry it takes up to much energy and it's not healthy for you or the kids. Give yourself and your boys some time to heal, look to the future with hope no matter how hard it is  right now. I did some counseling but found that the only people that really understand are the ones that have been there.Focus on what you can do, be with good friends even when you don't want to be they keep your mind off your troubles for a bit. Don't dwell on the past no one deserves to be treated like trash but some of us are. I don't try to understand things that are not meant to be understood.I would go to the court for total custody and not allow the mother to see the kids unless it's in a safe place with supervision she is obviously unstable, and you want to make sure your kids are safe esp now where they are so vunderable. Make sure you keep updated  picture ID's of the boys usually the school does this when they do the school pictures. Keep birth certificates, and social security cards handy if she has rights to see the kids. Good Luck you will all make it. Have fun. Have a safe and Happy Thanksgiving